Shakira is open about her recent split from partner Gerard Piqué and how important music was for her to get through “her darkest hour” and express herself in the best way possible for her children.
The 45-year-old Colombian singer spoke up ell on how she weathered her difficult split after it was announced in June that she and the Spanish footballer had broken up, and how she was dealing with a resulting custody battle over the couple’s two sons, Milan, 9, and Sasha, 7 , argued. While creating new music has been a big part of Shakira’s healing journey, it’s her boys’ livelihood that she remains most focused on.
“I think music is a life raft. There were days when I had to pick up the pieces of me off the floor. And the only way to actually do that was through the music. You know, to really put myself back together and look at myself in the mirror and know I’m a mom and my kids depend on me,” she said, noting that her career often felt like a distraction from the motherhood before. “Sometimes in the past I’ve dreaded my work so much because I just wanted to be there for my kids. I mean, I just wanted to cuddle in bed with my kids a little bit longer. And then I kind of had to get up and in.” Shooting the video and fulfilling my commitments But right now I’m so grateful for my work, the opportunity it gives us to sit back together and see who we are and why we’re here on this planet – what our purpose is, ours Task.”
Throwing yourself into her craft was a good distraction from the negative press surrounding the end of their relationship. However, protecting your children from the chaos is an additional challenge.
“It was not only hard for me, but also for my children. Incredibly difficult. I have paparazzi camping outside my house 24/7. And there is no place I can hide from them with my children except for my own house. You know, we can’t walk in the park like a normal family or go out for ice cream or do anything without paparazzi following us. So it’s hard,” Shakira explained. “And I’ve been trying to hide the situation from my kids. I’m trying to do it and protect them because that’s my number one mission in life. But then they hear things at school from their friends or they come across some awkward, awkward news online and it just affects them, you know?”
The local press in Spain, where she calls Barcelona home, is even “invasive to my kids,” she said, as photographers have disrupted their daily lives.
“You don’t deserve to feel watched or watched every second, to be photographed, or to be followed by paparazzi. You deserve a normal life. It’s just a total circus and everyone’s speculating about all these aspects of our, and more importantly, our children’s lives, and a lot of it isn’t even true,” she said. “Regardless of how things ended or like Gerard and I are ex-partners, he is the father of my children. We have a job to do for these two incredible boys and I am confident that we will find what is best for their future, their own life dreams and which is a fair solution for everyone involved. And I hope and would appreciate it if we were given the space to do it privately.”
She continued, “It’s really upsetting for two kids trying to process their parents’ breakup. And sometimes I feel like this is all just a bad dream and that I’ll wake up someday. But no, it’s real.”
While managing her own mental well-being has been a challenge, it was the priority she places on her children that Shakira ultimately pulls through.
“I just manage, I think, to remind myself that I have to become a role model for my kids, that I have to be what they want, what I want them to be,” she said. “And I also want to be there for all the people who have shown me their love and support. That’s my greatest strength. That is currently my strongest motor.”
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