Every family’s experience of raising a child is different and full of different challenges. However, there are some common parenting mistakes that can make a bad impression on your child. One of them screams and yells at your children. Being aware that we are our children’s first superheroes and idols is one of the most important things we should remember as parents. From an early age, our children internalize all of our actions and traits, even the little ones. A 2014 study in the Journal of Child Development showed that yelling produces results similar to physical punishment in children: increased anxiety, stress, and depression along with an increase in behavior problems. (Also read: Tips for parents to make learning fun for children )
“Crying out for protection is different from crying out for correction. When your child is sprinting toward a busy street, this is not the time to speak softly and offer alternatives. In this scenario, it would be 100% appropriate to yell for his protection. However, if you regularly yell at home as a form of correction, your child will be far less likely to take you seriously and will stop immediately when you try to protect himself. Many of us grew up with caregivers who yelled at us on a regular basis and we’re allowed to do that too, we start yelling when we don’t feel heard by our kids,” says parenting coach Rachael in her recent Instagram post. She also suggests four key reasons why you should stop parenting your kids yell at
1. It worsens behavior problems
Yelling as a form of correction teaches a child that problems are best solved with violence and aggression, thereby perpetuating the cycle of negative behavior within the home. Many of us struggle with crying because we didn’t have a childhood caregiver who taught us self-control, emotion regulation, or effective communication.
2. It can lead to depression or anxiety
Humans instinctively scream as a form of protection, but when used as a form of correction, screaming creates relationship tension and floods a child’s brain with stress hormones.
3. It alters brain development
Crying as a form of correction alters and can even damage a child’s social, emotional and brain development. Crying has been shown in several studies to inhibit the growth of the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for the development of logic and reasoning (among other things) and the amygdala, which is responsible for associating the correct emotional responses with a given circumstance.
4. It affects their physical health
A recent study found an association between consistent negative childhood experiences, including verbal abuse, and adult physical illnesses such as arthritis, severe headaches, back and neck pain, and other chronic conditions.
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